“You need a very strong will in order to adopt the Four Agreements — but if you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing.” from The Four Agreementsby Don Miguel Ruiz
I was a gifted a book years ago by a special woman whose advice I still carry with me to this day. Her tidbits of wisdom I still treasure are very much like the lessons taught in the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
The book is powerful yet simple, in a nutshell The Four Agreements offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness and love.
The First Agreement- Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with Integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth, of what is good, and what you want. Choose your words carefully in what you say to others, as well as what you say internally to yourself.
The Second Agreement- Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering and worrying. You can simply say, “next”.
The Third Agreement- Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. You have to learn to ask for what you want with conviction and confidence. Others cannot read your mind.
The Fourth Agreement- Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. It will be different from day-to-day. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.
“As you build the habit of the four new agreements, your best will become better than it used to be.”