Naturally this time of year many of us sit back to reflect on the past year. We take inventory of what went well and what we’d do differently.
In this day and age of over-commitment it’s far too easy to find ourselves overstimulated and overwhelmed. This year instead of making a list of things we have intentions of following through with but not fulfill, why not make a shorter list of things to give up in exchange for more happiness?
I read somewhere that happiness is a choice. It’s a shame that most of us complicate our lives to the point that we can’t see it when it’s in plain sight of us.
So how do we reset? Here’s a list of 10 things you can give up in exchange for happiness.
1. Give up control. Learn to let go, plain and simple. Learn to embrace the new and welcome change. After all a definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.
2. Give up caring what other people think of you. Spending time worrying about what others think of you is a waste of energy. It’s impossible to please everyone and it’s none of your business what others think of you.
3. Give up trying to please everyone. You’ll naturally attract the people who are supposed to surround you when you are truly being the best version of you that you can be.
4. Let go of insecurity. There is only one version of you on the planet. Hold your head up high. Be it. Own it. Absolutely stop worrying about it. The truth is that no one really watches us that closely or cares as much as we think they do.
5. Quit worrying. Worry is investing time and energy into something we don’t want to have happen. Learn to let go and trust.
6. Don’t participate in gossip. Those sharing gossip with you will gossip about you. Choosing to believe personal or sensational facts that have not been confirmed is naive.
7. Give up the past. We’ve all been hurt. We’ve all made mistakes. Every experience in life has taught you something or made you stronger.
8. Give up anger. Anger only hurts the person holding onto it. Let it go for good.
9. Give up spending money on what you’d don’t need in effort to buy happiness. We complicate our lives by spending too much money and filling our homes with “things”. Save your money. Exchange “things” for experiences. Less is more.
10. Stop taking everything personally. The truth is that most people are too consumed with themselves to really notice what you’re doing. Most people’s reactions have nothing to do with you.